Dr Malgorzata Milewicz

I work with people who find relationships more difficult than other areas of life. You may be successful and capable, yet struggle to move beyond dating, lose yourself once a relationship becomes important, or repeatedly feel hurt, disappointed or misunderstood by partners, family or friends. You may understand these patterns very well but find that insight alone hasn’t changed how you feel or what happens in your relationships.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy for Trauma Themes (Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute); Doctorate in Counselling Psychology and Psychotherapy (Middlesex University, London0; Postgraduate Clinical Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy (Metanoia Institute, London); Master’s degree in Social Clinical Psychology (University of Social Sciences and Humanities, Warsaw)

I’m a Counselling Psychologist and Integrative Psychotherapist and have been providing psychotherapy for over 15 years.

Much of my work is with people who function well in many areas of their lives but find relationships or their inner lives more difficult. I also work with trauma, emotional disconnection, identity and belonging, loneliness, and significant changes in life.

I am not a blank-screen therapist. I work relationally and I’m present in the relationship as myself. I bring my expertise to the work, but my responses also arise from my experience of you and of us working together. This can bring into view patterns that may occur elsewhere in your life.

I’m interested in who you are: how you relate to yourself and other people, what you think and feel, what matters to you, and whether the way you live and present yourself to the world reflects how you experience yourself privately.

I’m on your side, but that doesn’t mean I’ll always agree with you. At times I may draw your attention to places you’d rather not look, ask difficult questions or invite you to consider a perspective that is uncomfortable. I see this as part of thinking together rather than telling you who you are or what you should do.

My way of working draws on psychodynamic and attachment theories, neuroscience, trauma theory, embodied approaches and existential thinking. Together, these form a coherent framework for my work rather than a collection of separate techniques.

I also pay attention to the wider social and cultural contexts in which we live. They can support us, but they can also constrain, exclude or oppress us. Our difficulties cannot always be understood adequately by looking only at what is happening inside us.

I work with adults in English and Polish. Sessions are weekly and usually open-ended.