Narcissist traits are patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving linked to narcissism, such as a strong need for admiration, low empathy, and a focus on self-interest. These traits exist on a spectrum and do not automatically mean someone has a personality disorder. Many people encounter narcissistic traits in partners, family members, or workplaces.
What are narcissist traits?
Narcissist traits are consistent behaviours and attitudes that centre on self-importance, entitlement, and validation from others. They often involve difficulty recognising other people’s feelings and a tendency to protect self-esteem at all costs. Someone can show narcissist traits without meeting the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder.
Common narcissist traits include:
A strong need for praise or admiration
Difficulty accepting criticism
Limited empathy for others
A sense of entitlement
Manipulative or controlling behaviour
How do narcissist traits show up in relationships?
Narcissist traits in relationships often appear as emotional imbalance, where one person’s needs dominate. The relationship may feel intense at first but later become confusing or draining. Over time, patterns can develop that undermine trust, safety, and mutual respect.
Common relationship patterns include:
Idealising someone early, then devaluing them
Blaming others for problems or conflict
Ignoring boundaries
Using guilt, silence, or anger to control situations
How do you know if narcissist traits are affecting your mental health?
Narcissist traits affect your mental health when ongoing interactions lead to anxiety, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. You may feel responsible for managing the other person’s moods or feel unable to express your own needs safely. These effects often build gradually and can be hard to recognise.
Signs it may be affecting you include:
Constantly second-guessing yourself
Feeling on edge or walking on eggshells
Loss of confidence or self-esteem
Emotional exhaustion after interactions
When should you seek professional help?
You should consider professional help when dealing with narcissist traits leaves you feeling distressed, stuck, or unsure of your own perceptions. A counsellor or psychotherapist in the UK can help you understand relational patterns, rebuild boundaries, and process emotional impact in a neutral, supportive setting.
Finding support from a therapist in the UK
If you are affected by someone else’s narcissist traits, speaking with a qualified counsellor or psychotherapist can be helpful. Using a UK therapist directory allows you to find local, registered professionals offering counselling or psychotherapy, making it easier to access appropriate support when you need it.
