What does gaslighting mean?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one person causes another to doubt their own thoughts, feelings, or perception of reality. It often involves denying events, minimising emotions, or shifting blame, leaving the other person confused and uncertain about their own judgement, particularly within close relationships.
What is gaslighting in a relationship?
Gaslighting in a relationship is when one partner repeatedly undermines the other’s sense of reality to gain control or avoid responsibility. It can occur in romantic, family, or professional relationships and often develops gradually, making it difficult to recognise while it is happening.
Common signs of gaslighting in a relationship include:
Being told you are overreacting or too sensitive
Having your memories or experiences denied
Apologies that turn blame back onto you
Feeling confused after conversations
Questioning your own judgement more than before
How do you know if you are being gaslighted?
You may be being gaslighted if you consistently doubt your own thoughts or feel anxious about raising concerns. Gaslighting creates ongoing self-doubt rather than resolving conflict, and the pattern repeats even after you try to explain how you feel.
Things to consider if you suspect gaslighting:
Do you frequently second-guess yourself?
Do you feel responsible for problems you did not cause?
Do conversations leave you feeling unsettled or confused?
Have others noticed changes in your confidence?
When should you seek professional help for gaslighting?
You should consider seeking professional help if gaslighting is affecting your mental health, self-esteem, or ability to trust your own judgement. Speaking with a counsellor or psychotherapist in the UK can provide a neutral space to understand what is happening and explore your options safely and clearly.
Finding support from a therapist
If gaslighting is a concern, finding a qualified counsellor or psychotherapist can help you make sense of your experiences. Many people choose to look for support through a therapist directory, which allows you to find local professionals offering counselling or psychotherapy suited to your needs.
